Once a person reaches a certain age, it’s very likely that he/she would have experienced things that may have left some significant impacts in his/her behaviours. Most often than not, these changes are not considered results from positive experiences. While some of these results are due to experiences in the relationship sectors, there are many that were delivered from business, family, friendship…
In my own humble opinion, all experiences are good experiences, as they are the reasons and causes of our maturity. So you may have been betrayed by your best friend, but once that lesson is learnt, you would know how to keep a certain distance with your closest friend. These things are not to be taught by books but rather by personal experiences, and since we are still rather in our tender years, the price we pay for errors are far less valuable if it was to happen in latter years..
However, the issue is not how we adjust or learn from the experiences, but rather, how do we coup with life after these learnings? Do we still keep an open mind towards anyone and everyone, or do we choose to place ourselves in an enclosure so that no one is allowed in.
My answer would be; no one is an island. We all want to find caring, respect, and love from someone or some group of people. We want to be a part of community that validates us. Yes, there will be setbacks in the people you meet, and that there will be times that one’s judgement on another is completely wrong. However, that shouldn’t change your approach to people. Selectively, you should consider open up your mind and allow others to understand you, so that a genuine friendship/ relationship can be achieved. If there’s one thing that experience, it is to observe then dive (but observe has to come with the fact that both parties are willing to try to let the others know about him or her). If one prefers to approach everything with a cautious and alert mind, life would be so tiring and that there shouldn’t be a reason why one should be meeting anyone at all..
Yes, friendship and trust does take time, but it would also require your courage to attempt to learn.. Nothing is certain in life, but if you don’t even have the guts to see what’s out there, what is life to you?
Comments (7)
beautifully written. i agree that
what’s important is how we coup
after the experience.
life to me are the times when
my heart felt alive – either sharing
laughs with friends, or finding comfort
in solo times of introspection. etc.
what’s life to you?
it seems no matter how times i get hurt from close friends, i always bounced back with an open mind…maybe the lesson to self is to be a tad bit more guarded.
then life would be nothing
to sum it all up – life is an ever learning lesson…
i think that applies not just to friendships but everything…uve got to TRY things before turning ur nose at it. be it, food, friends, or love! =)
+1 to sassy.
It sparkled me something. Thanks.