In a span of less than 6 months, I have transformed from a bachelor to a husband, and now a soon-to-be father. Needless to say, the changes are quite drastic.

Perhaps because I am the only child within the extended family that actually bears the family name, I started to receive pleas and sometimes pressures from my relatives on settling down and, most importantly, have lots of kids since I turnt 27. I didn't mind that, but have resisted settling down for the sake of settling down.

I wanted to know what is out there for me, and what is it that I look for.

In all honesty, I had no idea what kind of characteristics I should look for within a girl during all those years, nor do I know what I need. Every lady is unique and exciting to be with, and at my late 20s, equipped with a not-bad look, and a pedigree of business success, dating is easy and truly enjoyable. However, I was lost. The looks no longer hold great appeals to me, they are now just the basic entry criteria. I wanted more, but I didn't know what.

But experiences do help in solving this issue. With all these encounters, I started to know what I am not looking for in a girl; instead of making emotional decisions on lust, I begin to utilize some fractions of my brain (not a lot) and my heart at more at peace with my own view.

Then she appeared. Well, not really, she's been there in my life for sometime, as a friend, an underclass lady fom my college. I knew she was pretty, but I never liked her in that way, but then, lightning struck, we started dating and within a year, we are married.

Since marriage, I have yet to sense lots of changes to my life but maybe that's because my wife is extremely smart, she took absolute control of me in stealth mode. I used to spend weekends in various different countries and cities, and now I just want to go home and spend time with her. I don't go out that much anymore (maybe the occasional cigar, or poker). The weekend now is peaceful and enjoyable in a way that I couldn't appreciate before. The only constant struggle that I have is how to balance my time for my family and work (but that's another post)

And now, I will be a father... I can't wait, I already have her name figured out, and I truly, deeply hope that she has her mother's look.